Dad had horse buggy and 4 extra wheels that are all in our machine shed.
Dad LOVED that buggy and he was so proud of the old wagon wheels that he hung them up on the inside of the machine shed wall and they've been in there forEVER. He never would take them down cuz he liked how they looked there.
Well sis emailed me to take pic of the buggy and the wheels as she has someone interested in buying them.
There's NO WAY I'd sell that stuff. That machine shed just wouldn't look the same without those wheels haning there. I still picture dad when in there... puff'n on his pipe and looking up at those old wagon wheels.
I think she should discuss it with me before offering to sell things of his. It's part of the estate which is in a trust under her and my name.
The reason she does that is because she can..
Tell her in no uncertain terms... absolutely NOT.. They are not hers to sell!
When you learn to stand up to her is when she will quit taking advantage!
It's possible that she doesn't realize what they mean to you, or what they meant to your dad. Maybe she thinks it's a chance to sell something that is just taking up space. If you explain to her the memories that go with those, maybe she will understand?
Yes she should talk to you about selling his stuff, but maybe someone mentioned wanting somoethign like those and she is just doing something that she thinks is smart? You have the upper hand since you have the wheels AND you don't have to produce the pictures. For sure explain to her what they mean to you, and that you appreciate being informed of any other things she would like to sell or dispose of before approaching perspective buyers.
Be prepared for her to request that you buy them if you want them tho....
** My post has likely been edited 5 or 6 times for spelling or grammar, and is quite likely still incorrect.
and if you take a photo of them for her, that is like saying.. OK! Let's sell them.. and don't expect to see half of the money from them if past history of your sister's behavior is present history..
I'm sure she is thinking of getting rid of stuff that's been in there for a long time... that's fine. Machinery or stuff like that..... but to ask first would be nice.
She just IM me for a reply and I told her just a few months before dad died he was in the machine shed and I told him he should take those wheels home and display them (they are in pretty good shape considering how long they've been hanging up there). He said those wheels better not ever come off that wall. She replied "ok" and that was that.
Good for you.. but you know some day... it's gonna be a battle of the sisters!
we are sooooooooo different
she's all about money
and I'd rather have memories.
Gotta go to work...
Tootles noodle heads.
I'm not really sure how wills go, but sounds like all this property belongs to your mom yet until she passing away; then you will inherit those things your dad gave to you and sis not a day sooner is what I believe.
It seems you need a good lawyer to settle some things your sis is trying to pull now. You two really need to come together and show some love for one another..the jealousy will destroy any kind of bond you should have as sisters. I'm the middle child of seven in my family, and I would hate to know I have a sibling like you describe your sister on this site..To me a sister is the very best friend you will ever have. I feel sad for you that you don't know that.
Hey!
Don't even get me started! I thought to myself when my sister took the spotlight, this only happened to "other" families..." To be continurd on my end...
Let her know how you feel. She can't be made of stone. I certainly hope she hears you.
Sending Light & Love
Sounds like she is interested in the money end of it. Don't let her do a thing that is left in trust to you and her together.
Just tell her to back off. Stand up to her and don't let her rule. Sister or not; they are not to be taking advantage of someone so don't let it happen. Don't take any pictures of the stuff and stand your ground.
Let every day be a good day!
ILUV--I agree with PP about not letting her sell the buggy & extra wheels. BUT I hope you have a digital camera & DO go take pictures of the buggy & wheel!! Sorry but I don't always trust people & the reason for my idea of pictures is that if that buggy ever 'disappeared'!!
Good luck girl & stand your ground!!
Jan
I agree with PP! Tell her no! Not knowing the situation you may just want to take pictures anyway in the event something comes up missing anyway! That's what my mother has done w/ my grandmothers home. Mom is the POA and executor of the estate. My mom has 1 step-brother that thinks he's entitled to everything . . $$, items and you name it. Mom is now in charge of her $ and the house and he's not wanted there but it doesn' stop him.
Better to get the air cleared now rather than to wait and have it fester a relationship!
her and I are on the estate... the farm, where I live.
Mom is in charge with anything at HER house.... yet she thinks she has to ask my sis if she can buy or sell anything at HER house. I try to get mom to understand she nor I have any control of anything SHE has at her house... but mom doesn't understand
I agree that your mama is living and things are all hers till.
Stand your ground girl...I wish i would have
{{{hugs}}}
Dee
If both you and your sister are listed equally, she cannot sell anything without your consent. YES.....take pictures, for YOUR use, not for your sis to sell stuff.
So sorry you are going through this mess. It's so hard to loose someone you love, and someone else has those paws out, wanting money. Believe me, honey, I know. In my case, it isn't even a family member.
Rainey
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